Friday, November 2, 2007

If I Don't Laugh, I'll Cry

Well I just read a sweet comment from a friend and she said, "What's one more hurdle?" Well we are officially crossing that hurdle right now and it is a doozy.

Let me start from Thursday afternoon and fill you in on what's been going on. The eye doctor came to do a follow up check on Lindy. And guess what??? There is a problem and she needs more surgery on her right eye. A small area of her retina has started to detach itself. "How can this be?" we ask ourselves. The though of her having to go to surgery AGAIN is about more than I can handle. "So okay, lets do this" we tell ourselves. We'll all get through it.

AND then the other bomb drops. There is no one at Baptist who does this surgery, she has to go to Duke. So here we are, two days away from taking Will home and we are told our daughter has to go to Duke. Could the timing be worse??? I don't think so.

Then the chaos begins. Doctors talking to doctors about all the aspects of the surgery and the transport. And trying to figure out what in the world to do about Will. We got home late and packed up our stuff, expecting to go to Duke today. We get there this morning ready to meet with the doctors again and we ended up waiting most of the day for some news.

So the short of the story is that Lindy is supposed to be going to Duke on Sunday and having surgery on Monday (or possibly Tuesday). Will is going to stay put for now, until at least Monday. Having him safe and taken care of in the hospital will make it a little easier for us to go to Duke and be with Lindy for her surgery. If he can stay a little longer we might do that. If we have to bring him home then we will split our house. I'd stay home with Will and Drew would go to Durham with Lindy. We'd might switch off at some point. We really don't how long she will be at Duke though. She will definitely come back to Baptist.

I had visions of how it would be to bring home a baby from the hospital. I think it will be a big deal. Lots of pictures, video coverage, etc. Our first night with one of our babies was going to be special. And now Drew might not even be there. How much does that stink? Yet another experience we might get the short end of. Seems to be the way things work for us.........

We'll update when/if anything changes and when we know more information.


Frenda and Pete said...

Oh dear. Lindy has sure had a rough go of it and I can't imagine how hard it will be to divide the family. We love you and will continue to pray for you.

I only work Tuesday and Wednesday-if you need me to stay with Will during the day while Miss Lindy is getting "fixed" yet again-just let me know.

Unknown said...

Will's "homecoming day" will just be even more special once everything has settled down....and I know it won't be very long until Lindy is home too. Special thoughts are with you today!

David and Amanda said...

Jamie and Drew,

Whoever wrote "what's one more hurdle" is so right in this adventure that we call the NICU. There are a lot of parents that go through what you are going through and just when you think you are on the home stretch you have to take two steps back before making it one step forward.

I know the decisions you will be making will be tough, especially with Will's impending homecoming, but both of those gorgeous children know you love them very much and you are doing what you can to make it a double homecoming celebration.

I firmly believe that as tough as it seems now, in the end and a few months down the road, you'll remember how you and these children overcame these obstacles and reflect on the future that you have with them. They are tough kids, they have proven that over and over again and you have proven to be strong and very loving parents and that will have to continue until way after the NICU.

We will be praying for miss Lindy extra strong this weekend and of course praying for the rest of

lauren said...

Drew and Jamie - My prayers continue to be with all of you guys as you hit yet another hurdle. I got Drew's message but won't try to call you guys back - I know things must be crazy.

If there is anything I can do from the W-S side of things, PLEASE let me know! Blessings to Lindy as she faces yet another surgery. You WILL get your family home and all together eventually!!

Tonya Montrief said...

Hi Jamie,

I don't know if you remember me or not, but I am the one who had the twins at Forsyth. I met you the day we were leaving with Ethan. I have been keeping up with your blog. I work in ophthalmology and was the head tech in the Retina department at Duke for 2 years. Dr. Toth with probably be doing your surgery and I just wanted you to know that your daughter is in the BEST possible hands. She is absolutely phenominal in her work and it was an honor to work for her. Also I had my twins transfered to Duke when they got home and that is where they have there check ups now. I really liked the Dr. at Baptists but being an ophthalmic tech. I have worked with the best and know where the best is. I will definitely keep you and your precious babies in my prayers as I do everyday. Please feel at ease with where you are at. Dr. Toth is wonderful and if you need anything please email me I will talk with Dr. Toth's secretary tomorrow and make sure that you are well taken care of. Remember " I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me" Love to you all Tonya Montrief

Bruce and Angie said...

Hang in there, you two. This too will pass. You have a lot of people lifting your names in prayer, and keeping you close to their hearts. If there is anything any one of us can do to make your lives easier, just pick up the phone.

Melanie said...

I know this is all so frustrating and seems so unfair. I admire the strength that you guys have so much! It seems that as soon as things seem to be going right, something inevitably goes wrong - such is the cycle of life, unfortunately. As another person commented - "this too shall pass." Lindy is such a fighter. It seems like she has had so many surgeries, but look at it this way - by now she's a pro. I will continue to pray for you guys. Let us know how things unfold - I know you will.

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